My little brother came out to me. and i have no idea what to tell him. I the only advice i garbled out was "don't tell mom and dad" and i had to get the gym... We are not a close family, i was like "your 9 how could you know?"(the hypocrisy being i knew i was gay at 9) he informed he was 12. Jesus i don't want to talk to him about it. His exact words were " i think i am gay, cuase i don't like girls." i feel bad, but i have no clue what to say, i think my adivce works. so here is what i will tell him when/if he decides he is gay and not just a woman hater. Dan, life is gonna be a lot harder for you than ever thought it would be. At first it will feel like you have to give up a lot. The thoughts of a wife and all that. you'll feel like an outcast, and probably spend more than your share of saturday nights at home for a couple months.You will have to worry about diseases in a way your freinds won't. You will deal with an unseen prejudice that most poeple never know. You will have to deal with a family that hates what you are. You may even hate yourself for a bit. But you have to realize, this is the only way you will ever be happy. And life is supposed to suck sometimes, sour grapes only make the juicy ones taste better. My advice? Learn to lie to stangers, and anyone who you don't think gets it. Don't let anyone ever tell you your too young for something. if someone thinks your cute at the bar, go for it, just be careful. Buy a different cellphone than the one Mom and Dad give you as soon as you can. Get a job, i have learned money is the best way to amass power and freedom. Don't work to hard at school, of the kids i know who did that, they all hate their schools. Work hard, just be sure you can party on the weekends. In the long term, memories are the onlything we keep. learn to say "fuck you" with some real diginity. when the phrase is done correctly, you can use it to impact any situation. Learn that blowing people of doesn't get you blown in the long run. Don't pick up the phone just cuase it rings. make sure you have an escape route when ever you get into anything. Don't worry about what your parents say, it's anger, and as much as i hate to admit it, it probably comes from the fact that they care about you. Be spoiled, be rude, be you, don't change cuase unless you don't like it about yourself. Old people have some worth, you'll have to figure out just what it is. Being naked with people you don't know is a great way to get to know them. Live your life randomly when possible, becuase hell, it's random anyway. Listen to other peoples advice, even if you don't take it, it will help you prepare to mock them when they are wrong, (or for the told you so's). Giving in doesn't mean giving up. Admit when your wrong, but defend yourself when yoru right. BE CAREFUL in the ways that you can be, but don't make it stop you from living. Above all else, if you think you'll like it, try it. thats all for tonight.
- posted by G @ 12:58 AM